When Complaining Is Wrong
Why do we unjustly complain? It’s because we are greedy, wanting our own way (Jude 16). When we don’t get what we want, we tantrum through complaining. We fail to do what disciples are supposed to do – set aside our own interests so we can be directed by God’s interests.
How can we learn to not complain in a sinful way? We can give up the idol of self-will and greed (1 Samuel 15:23, Moffatt) by presenting ourselves to the Lord as a living sacrifice and letting Him change our way of thinking (Romans 12:1-2). By developing God’s way of thinking, we will disregard our own interests and be concerned about His interests. We can thank Him for the destiny He has for us. In addition, we can constantly be aware that He is with us. If we catch a vision of Him never leaving us and have an appreciation of Who He is, we will complain a whole lot less.
Since we often complain because we are in pain, deprived of something that matters to us, and/or are disappointed with how our life is going, it can be difficult to avoid complaining. Nevertheless, unjust griping is harmful because it brings discouragement (Proverbs 15:4, LB). When such complaining becomes a habit, it results in defiling bitterness (Hebrews 12:15). Wrongful complaining also undermines our ability to be gracious and hospitable to others and can eventually lead to our being judged (1 Peter 4:9; James 5:9). Our relationship with the Lord is poisoned by unfairly griping to Him (Hosea 7:14, CEV).
Let’s replace sinful griping with surrender to Him, consciousness of His presence, graciousness toward others, and prayer with thanksgiving (Philippians 4:5-6).
Loving trust is more important than mere head knowledge.