We All Have Weaknesses
What weaknesses do you have? Even the strong have multiple weaknesses (Jas 3:2; Rom 7:21-23). Since we all have blind spots (Ps 19:12, CW), we may be more or less aware of what these weaknesses are. Some weaknesses are easier to see: we are fat, tend to curse when under stress, or drink too much alcohol. Even here, though, we can be in denial. We see ourselves as ‘a little overweight,’ ‘one who uses colorful language,’ or ‘a social drinker.’
Other weaknesses can be much harder to recognize. The rich young ruler was challenged to give away all he possessed so he might recognize that he had a problem with coveting (Mt 19:16-24). He hadn’t seen it. Selfishness can be hard to detect. It is so easy to see our own desires as proper and best rather than as self-serving. For example, what about lust? It can be difficult to adequately understand when we are lusting in a sexual way much less when we are lusting for other things. I need more clothes; I need more stylish clothes; I need a nicer car; I need a bigger house; my son or daughter needs to go to this top-notch university. Are these genuinely accurate assessments or is there a bit of self-interest involved in all this? Do these ‘needs’ truly represent what God says He purposes for us?
Knowing that everyone has notable weaknesses, however, can help us to be compassionate people. It is the person who self-righteously doesn’t see their own weaknesses who is likely to harshly criticize others for their failings (Lk 18:9-14). Remember, even though we do have blind spots about our shortcomings, at least knowing that we have them and praying for the Lord to reveal and heal them puts us in a posture of humility that is likely to result in compassion, grace, patience, and forgiveness toward others.
When God wants a couple or family to alter course, the revelation is normally clear.